![]() ![]() ![]() Humiliation may be your cup of tea… but if your partner has been traumatized by catholic school punishments it may not be the best fit for a scene with them.ĭiscover what language is preferred - and what’s out of bounds - with questions like: However being “Daddy’s Good Girl” could be a turn on and encourage more “good behavior” Someone may LOVE being called a "naughty little slut… or it may trigger a shame spiral, pulling them out of the scene and into a bad headspace. The language you use within the scene has the ability to make it or break it. When it’s all said and done, how do you both want to feel?Īre there health issues or medication I should know about? Is there sex? Is there no sex? (Contrary to common belief, sex and BDSM don’t always have to be together.) Will you use toys? If so, what toys will you use? Here’s what to consider:įirst, determine the container you’re playing in. These fears are perfectly normal - but with the right planning and conversations beforehand they can be put to rest, freeing you and your partner up to have a rockin’ scene. When you enter this particular anxiety spiral, take a sec to stop and breathe. You’ve talked with your partner(s) and you both generally know what the other is comfortable with… but how will you know if you’ve gone too far? Or not far enough? What if you or your partner changes their mind mid scene? What if this turns into a negative experience - how will you and your partner recover? Negotiating a scene (or a previously planned, consented to, communicated BDSM event for those not in the know… yet □) can be one of the more intimidating things to navigate when you’re first getting into BDSM. ![]()
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